Date:         Thu, 16 Dec 2004 11:43:29 -0500
Reply-To:     Kurt Grotz <kgrotz@MAIL.CRAFTECH.COM>
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From:         Kurt Grotz <kgrotz@MAIL.CRAFTECH.COM>
Subject:      Re: HELP My wife thinks the van is unsafe
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Eric and Dave

Four years ago my (x) wife forced me (like it was a horse) to put my 84 into
retirement at my mom's farm (along side the 67 Sunbeam Alpine for the same
reason) It was that straw that broke the camel's back.  While the marriage
didn't end right then, the resentment built to a crescendo, so one day I
grabbed the dog and said good bye.

Now I am single and happily driving a nice new 86 GL.  Plus I still have the
84 for parts.

Her thing was that the VW and Sunbeam for that matter were eyesores and an
embarrassment to her to the kids and to the neighborhood. She never grew up
with a 53 Dodge Station Wagon (in the 70s) or a Humber Super Snipe.  She is
the Ford Explorer type. Which she now happily drives. (until monthly fuel
and bank payment time)

In the end - she got the short end of the stick.  It all makes me wonder if
there are not more deep seeded resentments going on here.  Does she ever
tell you how much she loves the Vanagon.  Does she ever fight with you over
the keys, or who is driving?  Does she ever say - Hey - "Let's take the Van"
or "We were so lucky to find it."  Sadly I am thinking not.  You know.... -
you may be in trouble.

As for me, my new girlfriend - well she seems to like the van
okaaaaaaaay.......but.........  Well I am still unsure about her.  She voted
for George Bush.

Cheers

Kurt Grotz

86 RexMobile
84 Jackson




-----Original Message-----
From: Vanagon Mailing List [mailto:vanagon@GERRY.VANAGON.COM]On Behalf
Of Eric Zeno
Sent: Thursday, December 16, 2004 10:44 AM
To: vanagon@GERRY.VANAGON.COM
Subject: Re: HELP My wife thiks the van is unsafe


Dave,
   I feel for you. People who act on emotion like your
wife here,  are disturbed.   I've had to many people
like this in my life, and know that no matter what you
do, there fear will come back somewhere else. This
behavior will continue until they destroy everything
around them.  The only solution is to get rid of your
wife.  Better yet, if  you don't want it to look like your
fault buy a ford explorer.

                                                Eric


Dave Chameides wrote:

>Hey All,
>So now that Iıve got the van all fixed up and have put time and money into
>it, my wife is telling me that she is concerned that the van is unsafe for
>our kids to ride in it.  Now before I go on I should note that itıs and 83
>diesel 1.6 and I have personally checked all seatbelts and seat tracks,
etc.
>to assure her (and me) that itıs safe.  Sheıs mainly worried about tipping
>over.  Any thoughts on any studies on this so I can allay her fears?
>
>Dave
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