Date:         Fri, 18 Nov 2011 22:32:08 -0800
Reply-To:     Scott Daniel - Turbovans <scottdaniel@TURBOVANS.COM>
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From:         Scott Daniel - Turbovans <scottdaniel@TURBOVANS.COM>
Subject:      Re: 82 Coolant Tank retrofit help
Comments: To: Karl Wolz <wolzphoto@Q.COM>
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still friday ?
I think it is.
Well...........*that might help* ?

tell me,...if someone says an engine 'sticks out 2.5 inches' ...
which way does that mean it sticks out ???
( to me that would imply that it sticks out the back ..in it's a rear engine
subaru-vanagon )

you'd THINK if it sticks UP 2.5 inches ..they'd say 'sticks up' ..
but .....nope .


people ...........just ...............do
............not.............bother..............or maybe they are
'unable'.............
to communciate half clearly...........rather often, in my observation.

And of course......
as you may be aware, it's classic that men do not share feelings much ..
or really communicate on a deeper personal level sometimes..
and ......a brilliant woman tought me this...
absolutely changed my life ............
She drew the distincion being 'being relational' .........
and 'being informational.'

'most men' are Informational a lot in their interactions.
Study what women do ..
and notice how relational they usually are with each other.

'do that' with your woman and she'll be in heaven.

You can't even fake it ..
when she talks ..
you say  things like ...
"what did that feel like ?"
'what stood out about that event that made it so meaningful for you.'

even a simple 'tell me more, I'm interested.'
try it ....makes ALL THE DIFFERENCE in the world .


btw...besides being the Vanagon Whisperer .
I am also an Emotional Health Technician and Emotionally Responsible
Communication .....whatever - coach/teacher.

sdf



----- Original Message -----
From: "Karl Wolz" <wolzphoto@Q.COM>
To: <vanagon@GERRY.VANAGON.COM>
Sent: Friday, November 18, 2011 8:18 PM
Subject: Re: 82 Coolant Tank retrofit help


> My wife doesn't understand me; maybe I should give her more information?
>
> Karl Wolz
> |
> |I wish people would include enough information in their posts
> |to be well understood.
> |
> |